WEEPING ENVIRONMENT

WEEPING   ENVIRONMENT

Weeping environment pleads today for help

Only to find everyone busy to destroy it themselves

It thinks while world is so big why is human thinking so small

Why it is not their responsibility to protect nature above all

If Industrialization and urbanization have made us first in race

Then why it is the poverty population is still the curse of human race

While people are at war for conquering a simple piece of land

Floods, earthquakes and volcanic eruptions are unable to withstand

Deforestation, Ozone depletion, Water crisis is nobody’s concern

Cut throat competition is an excuse to let the flora and fauna burn  

Indiscriminate use of fertilizers and pesticides have gone berserk

Very soon the granted beautiful serene landscape will be out of work

Not every mistake can be undone and be given a second chance

Global warming and Environmental conservation techniques have to enhance

Time is running out, to save mother earth is the need of the hour

If not the next generation will be ashamed of human resolving power   

WHAT MATTERS IS.....................

What matters is not your Role but your Goal

What matters is not your Designation but whether you’re an Inspiration

What matters is not your wage Hiked but by how many you’re Liked

What matters is not your individual Brilliance but your team’s Resilience

To single out an incident, a project or an event over the past 18 months would neither give a precise reasoning of the effort nor will it be rational but YES

We did slog and stretch beyond the call of our duty during deployment, release, throughout critical phases and also when some of our team members were missing , just that every time it was given a new name  as optimization , production issue, severity and priority, deadlines etc….

The above mentioned catastrophe is what most of us in TCS do and is probably also expected out of every TCSer. From design to deployment it asks for commitment at various levels and by performing all the assigned tasks we anyhow not only make a difference to the team’s objective but also to our respective bank balance on the last working day of the month but the real difference is when it brings a transformation in an individual, gives that kick to come back next day morning to complete the task and to take that so called ownership.

 In my opinion Ownership is when one feels like:

 “It’s my Application.

  It is my Module.

  It is my Test case.

  It is my Design.”

Since last year I actively participated in development, unit testing, manual testing, automation, performance optimization, documentation, excel reporting, delegating, research, analysis, build, competencies and many more. Never did we say NO nor did we ever gave an excuse, from a complex domain dependent change request to unit testing of UI, from verification to validation, from compatibility of browsers to automation of the entire application. We were flexible and we made huge difference in being good enough to adapt, perform and excel in whatever was thrown at us.

It was very much like the game of chess while in chess a pawn can only be pawn and a king can only be a king BUT we played the pawn, the queen, and the king. We delivered everything that client asked and expected out of us; we worked like a horse, served like a pawn and felt like a king. Our biggest strength of the team and the greatest difference we made together was in being flexible by placing project needs ahead of personal preferences.

There have also been times when we did fight our ego

I am a Developer, Why on earth I have to do this?

I am this, how can I excel at that?

Why am I being treated the way I am?

They got everything for nothing and nothing for everything I am?

All the above questions were answered the moment I dropped I AM from it, before I realized that I AM being troubled by these questions , all of sudden found that it’s a grand and fantastic release, there was sense of achievement everywhere . I did not enjoy the victory as much as others only did then I learnt the culprit was “I AM”.  For a seed to be a plant it can’t be all on its own, the contribution of the soil, environment and most importantly the persistence of the seed to stand against all odds will eventually make the difference it needs to be a plant, it is needless to mention who is the seed and what is the environment.

Seldom do we take wisdom from technology to character, in being able to adapt to different tasks it made a difference to our attitude and helped in our corresponding personal lives, I started thinking where else can I contribute , how else can I make a difference to my family. I confess this with lot of pride and honesty that while technical capabilities and proficiency in adeptness made a difference to this project; coincidentally working in this project has brought and made a difference in my own life.

Every day we contributed in some or the other way, it never mattered how big or small it is, how good or bad it is, what always counted is our sincerity and loyalty towards team’s goal. The biggest reward or the greatest honor is in the process of making the difference to the project we learnt so much that it actually made a difference to us.

I am elated and fortunate for making a difference until today.

I hope and wish to make a difference tomorrow.

IF ONLY I HAD KNOWN THAT THE END WOULD BE SO BEAUTIFUL……….

IF ONLY I HAD KNOWN THAT THE END WOULD BE SO BEAUTIFUL……….

Today neither will I quote Great leaders nor will I make an attempt to steal the show by exaggerating inspirational stories, today I would share few of my personal moments which made me what I am from what I was!

When I grew up, I realized that my illiterate parents belonged to a lower middle class family with no access to education at all. My  younger brother and sister completed our beautiful family. For many years I stood first in class for which at home I was treated like a super hero.

In school I was going from strength to strength by this time my mother has already declared in society, friends and relatives about my marks and why I would be the most successful person, for her success was simply an end of problems ironically for me success was only to learn math’s formulae and chemical equations by heart. She is my biggest fan, my greatest supporter and my super best friend.

Out of nowhere I found a new passion of being a gifted cricketer and I instantly fell in love with the game. My parents urged me to leave this game as playing games was a rich man’s hobby and we cannot afford it .I willingly sacrificed my first love. Things like washing my bicycle, sharpening of a pencil, polishing of shoes and packing of lunch box was done with such precision and unconditional love that all my friends at school  felt  jealous and always said that everyone should  have parents like mine. I was given the status of a King and the respect of a leader.

                                                                                                 

Time flew, my engineering days passed in the blink of an eye, and when I got a job in Mumbai I gifted my parents a feeling of immense happiness and satisfaction.  My already king like status in the family was elevated to even greater heights albeit my mother could not control the emotions as I would be going away from them for the first time in my life.

My father bought a free STD reliance connection and everything was being discussed on phone, for some time I thought I was working in a call center, “what else” became the code word, after every sentence the discussion began with “what else” and conversation continued…  I wondered then how was reliance making profits.  I recollect my mom calling to tell me to put on a sweater and get wrapped in a quilt just because the weather was cool and chilly in Hyderabad. I  enjoyed my life to its full and considered myself luckiest person. i  was laughing so much that i thought smiling was waste of time.

All of a sudden I received a call saying my mom is admitted to the hospital and I had to fly back immediately. It was a brain hemorrhage.  I did not know what was happening, when I went to the ICU I could not believe what I was seeing, my heart stopped;   we looked into each other's eyes, we both knew something must be very wrong. Just minutes after that I became a stranger to myself, I lost myself.

Life became an unquenched thirst and a series of unfinished goals and dreams. I felt like part of my life is over. Every day my weeping life told me, please do not destroy me anymore. I had all the time in world with nothing to do.

There was no one who asked me to take little more rice...

There was no one who was waiting for me at home

There was no one who was praying for my safety and happiness

There was no one for whom I had to stay alive

I still pick up the phone to call her and give her some kind of news

I still hear her voice, still feel her touch, and is still alive in my heart

I cried by hiding my wounded heart, I cried with a smile on my face,

I cried without showing my tears, I cried by cursing my fate

I was not the same person I was. I had no will or desire to live ,i almost decided to call it off. But somewhere there was a force or probably my  conscience which told me not to give up; the end definitely has to be beautiful, For the sake of my family I donned a happy mask and started living a paralyzed life.

Everyone in the family was acting as if they were happy, few years passed by and my marriage became a crucial turning point in my life, it was a lifesaving occasion.  Words will fail to explain the magic my wife created to get my family back on track. On a July morning in 2009 I saw something which I will never ever forget in my life.i saw someone which made me complete.

How will I tell you, who you are to me?

 How will I tell you that you my life, my devotion and my peace

You are in my breath, and in my heart

You are in my sleep, and in my dreams
You are in my every word and in my thoughts
You are in my past, present and in my future

How will I tell you, I am nothing without you?

 

You are my success and defeat

You are my path, and my destination
You are my prayer and my wish
You are my identity
 

How will I tell you, you are my god?

How will I tell you, who you are to me?

I was blessed with a beautiful angel whom I named after my Mom. There were only 2 options either she returned to me or I decided to go back to her. I got another excuse to stay alive, immediately life transformed from death awaiting mode to life reliving mode, my dreams have come true.i was happy beyond imagination.i danced in joy and screamed in excitement.I don’t mind what life has to offer me in future; I have already lived my life. I always believed there is a difference in living life for a reason and I feel special in living my life for my daughter.

Let us ask ourselves a question?

What if we come to know at the end that the end would be so beautiful?

May be we then would have enjoyed or atleast accepted it right from the beginning.

The biggest inspiration is in believing that the end would be beautiful. Ladies and gentlemen, we are all running the race of our life in laps only to discover that every finishing line is also the starting line.

Before we finish the race

Will we see suffering?         

Will we experience difficult times?

Will problems come our way that we in no way deserve?

Yes, yes,. And yes.

The fact is, we all have a past, some of which we would rather not talk about, and some of which we wish had never happened….

When a runner runs a race, the runner always looks forward, the runner does not look backward, and the runner gazes towards the finish line. No race is completed by looking or running backwards.We all will finish the race we are in. In running, it doesn't matter whether you come in first, in the middle of the pack, or last. You can say, 'I have finished.' There is a lot of satisfaction in that.

In a world of progress, there is no ‘Midas touch’. Neither failure is final nor is success permanent, if you play this game of life long enough,without quitting midway and play to the end eventually we all will cross the finishing line ,extending this analogy  it is so very important to run this race of life till the end or we will never know ourselves how far we could have gone.

Do not look back and grieve over the past for what is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for what has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering as

The greatest pride is to grow in your own eyes.

The greatest setback is to fall in your own eyes.

Because you never know .

What if we come to know at the end that the end would be so beautiful?

The Risk of Not Taking a Risk

                                                             The Risk of Not Taking a Risk



To laugh is to risk appearing a fool,

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental

To love is to risk not being loved in return,

To hope is to risk despair,

To try is to risk failure.

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But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.


The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.


People engaged in every kind of human endeavor say that taking risks is the key to fulfillment and success. It is at the heart of our biggest thrills and proudest achievements. Ask someone when they felt most alive and they’ll tell you a story about a risk she took.



There come times in everyone's life when you're faced with a choice that involves risk. Perhaps you want to change careers, move to a different place, quit your job and start a business, begin a new relationship, have a child.


Risk is, by nature, scary. It's uncertain and unpredictable. You're heading off into uncharted territory. You risk criticism and humiliation, or having to pick up the pieces and start all over again. You're giving up what you know for what might be. The rewards can be great, but so can be the cost


                   So, why would anybody want to take a risk?


Life is all about taking risks. And we willingly take chances every day.


Risk is not only when a doctor decides to tear open human chest to operate or when one decides to jump over a cliff, there is risk in every profession and every important moment.
Be it an artist performing live ,lawyer defending an innocent, an old man crossing the road, a mother carrying baby in her womb, a child climbing the stairs……

 Every time you go to sleep, you risk not waking up! But you go ahead and do it anyway.


Risk opens you up to new ideas, skills, opportunities and experiences.


Those who refuse to take risks to protect their security, willingly live in cages, trapped by their own fears. If we want to fly badly enough, we will be willing to give up being a caterpillar. Turtles can’t advance without sticking their necks out, and neither can we.


I believe we are living in an ultra-conservative environment with very low appetite for risks, if not Why is everyone always brought up saying “Take Care” and not ever encouraged anyone by asking them to “Take Risks”.


Why do we live life like: if you have an itch, wait for a few years, get a job with a six figure salary, take your parents' permission, invite a thousand people to dinner to celebrate the occasion, and then scratch it?


I heard an interesting story the other day about Koi fish.



For example if you place a Koi in a fish bowl it’ll only grow up to about three inches. 





f you took that same fish and placed it in a backyard pond it’ll grow to about eighteen inches.




Most amazing though, is that if you place that same fish in a large lake, the Koi will grow to be about three feet or more.




So the fish’s growth it totally dependent on the environment it’s placed in. This is similar to our own lives and the undo limitations that we place on ourselves which are more often than not self-imposed prisons.

Ladies & gentelmen there is no reason to be satisfied in being a koi in a bowl when u know u can be a koi in a lake.

 

Don’t you think that Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi took risks with non-violence to become the Father of the nation?

 Would you not agree that Agnes Gonxha Bojaxhiu took risk with Kindness and tolerance to become the Mother Teresa?

Is it not true that a Greek king of Macedonia risked his life to become Alexander the Great?

 Today just few moments ago, I took the risk of not disclosing the poem at the beginning was by William Arthur



Every pearl in my hand today is equally unique and precious just like everyone sitting in this room. The birth of a pearl is truly a miraculous event, each one begins its journey as an ordinary oyster and when a simple grain of sand finds its way inside an oyster's shell it sacrifices being an oyster and gets magically transformed into a beautiful pearl.


Every one refers it as a beautiful pearl and not an oyster of yesterday;


My dear friends,Taking risks is the only hope to get ourselves transformed into pearls.


Even though you can come up with a dozen good excuses for why you shouldn't take a risk, there's one great big reason why you should. And that is, until you do, your heart is going to hunger. If you don't take risks, you'll never feel quite complete.

  It does not always work, but it's worth it. As you go through your life, the parts that are going to stand out are not the ones where you plodded along safely and did what was expected of you. The shining memories will be the times when you took a leap of faith, whether you won or not. It does not really matter whether you succeed or fail because every failure is a learning experience.

 

Place your hand on your heart, Close your eyes for a moment and ask a question to yourself as
What will I regret more? Taking the risk but losing in the end, or never knowing what might be if I take the risk?

This journey from womb to tomb is full of risks.



Someone said it and I quote



“Life isn’t a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, latte in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming ‘Woohoo WHAT A RIDE’!”



What can be a Tree should not die as a plant!



Take risks: if you win, you will be happy; if you loose, you will be wise.


Take Care But Take Risks!

SECRETS OF SLEEP

                        SECRETS OF SLEEP



The main facts in human life are five: birth, food, sleep, love and death.



Today after doing a 2 week research by referring journals, research papers and documentaries on web, Nitin will unravel mysteries of the most beautiful experience in life SLEEP through his CC #7 titled ‘SECRETS OF SLEEP’

 We spend about one-third of our lives asleep.


Sleep is one of the most pleasurable and mysterious areas of our lives. It is as necessary as breathing and as nourishing as eating, yet few people realize how important sleep is!



In our overcrowded lives, sleep has become a modern obsession, the thing we crave more than anything else. The alarm clock is an often-used fixture in an overwhelming majority of homes of the modern world. By using the electric lighting, alarm clocks, sleeping pills, and shift-work, we have wreaked havoc on the process of sleep.


Cutting down on sleep does not make people die (at least not immediately). It does make them feel miserable but the ease with which we recover by getting just one good night of sleep seems to make sleep look cheap.


In a couple of years from now, we may look at alarm clocks and "sleep regulation", in the same way as we look today at other "great" human inventions in the league of cigarettes, alcohol or radioactive cosmetics



Some of the bad rules that hurt sleep:


it is ok to use alarm clock to cut sleep short
it is ok to work in shifts
it is ok to save time by sleeping less and working more
it is ok to pull kids out of bed in time for school
it is ok to skip nights before important exams, etc.

 

Sleep is the time the body can undergo repair and detoxification. Poor sleep patterns are linked to poor health - and those who sleep less than six hours a night have a shorter life expectancy than those who sleep for longer. So sleep has a profound effect on our mental, emotional and physical wellbeing.



A typical night's sleep comprises five different sleep cycles. The first four stages of each cycle are regarded as quiet sleep or non-rapid eye move-ment (NREM). The final stage is denoted by rapid eye movement (REM).

 Though covered by lids, the movement of the eyes denotes the different stages of sleep.However, during the REM that follows there is a high level of brain activity.This is the stage associated with dreaming, causing temporary paralysis and so preventing us from acting upon our dreams.


Many of us had the experience of going to bed upset or anxious and waking up the following morning to somehow find that things are better because while we sleep the dreaming brain is working to solve our emotional problems. Dreams keep us psychologically healthy; they do this automatically without hope from waking mind.



Do we need to dream?

                        Yes we need do, in fact we sleep in order to dream.



 During our waking hours, the body burns oxygen and food to provide energy. This is known as a catabolic state, in which more energy is spent than conserved, using up the body's resource when we sleep we move into an anabolic state - in which energy conservation, repair and growth take over.



Every tissue in the body is renewed faster during sleep than at any time when awake, Research suggests that sleeping more when fighting infectious illness aids recovery.



JUST as the world is governed by light and dark, human beings also have an inbuilt body clock called the circadian rhythm. Merely resting or closing eyes is no way equivalent to sleeping as it will not move into a low energy state which gives body time to restore itself.



 While an individual experiencing lack of sleep not only gets less energy to work and feel irritated and depressed with a sense of insanity, but also suffers from many internal diseases and disorders.



Think in the morning. Act in the noon. Eat in the evening. Sleep in the night



“Sleep is the interest we have to pay on the capital which is called in at death; and the higher the rate of interest and the more regularly it is paid, the further the date of redemption is postponed.”



A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor’s book.




HAPPY SLEEPING!

 

No More Kolaveri Di!

• See my friend standing over there? He wants to know if you think I am cute!
• If I could rearrange alphabets, I would put U and I together.
• Is it hot in here or is it just you?
• Can you give me directions to your heart? I've seemed to have lost myself in your eyes.
• If you were a tear in my eye, I wouldn't cry for fear of losing you.
• Is that bruise from when you fell from heaven?
• Would you touch me so I can tell my friends that an angel has touched me?
• The only thing your eyes haven't told me is your name.
• How does it feel to be the most beautiful girl in this room?
• If you were a burger at McDonald's, you'd be called McGorgeous!

Companionship is something that each one of us yearns for and seeks on a constant basis. We all want to fall in love .Over the years, the meaning and the way love is pursued has changed considerably and this changed approach to relationships

People now intend to know each other well before moving in for total commitment.The status of a relationship is normally determined after a few dates, as people are avoiding taking impulsive decisions in matters of heart.

 Have you just met the woman of your dreams and you want to leave no stone unturned to woo her? You will have to impress your girl in order to win a date with her. Valentine’s Day is approaching and you may not have much time to try your chances.

I do not assure that you will become a pro, but will definitely not remain a novice!

 

Tips for Finding A Date

Maybe some people have a hard time meeting people. Perhaps they work strange hours and that's why they never meet anyone to date.

Maybe they work with people much younger or older, or perhaps they  really don't have finely honed social skills. It could be that you're shy, private, quiet in groups or just unwilling to make the first move.

Whatever the situation, you need to take action! The first thing to do is make sure you exude self confidence.

 Here are some tips on how to accomplish this:

1.                   Give yourself a makeover, Get a new haircut or hairstyle
2.                   Buy some new clothes and update your image
3.                   Treat yourself to a rejuvenating vacation or break
4.                   Go on a diet and lose a few pounds, if needed
5.                   Improve your attitude

  

Dating Close to Home

Begin by looking in your own neighborhood. Is there anyone in your neighborhood or friend group who is single and awesome? Often, people stay single simply because they aren't being asked out by anyone, not because they themselves are lonely. It's time to do the asking. 

Dating at Work

 In general, dating at work or dating someone within your own office environment is generally not a good idea due to the possibilities for problems and the negative implications it can have on your career

 
Get Physical

That's right, join a gym. To find a date, you should look your best. After all, if you've set your sights high, doesn't your potential date deserve the best, too

Ask Your Friends

The most common complaint among people in their late '20s and '30s is that all their friends are married. If this is true for you, it's time to adapt. As awesome as they might be, your married friends probably will not help you find a date. They tell you they'll try, and they probably mean it, but like attracts like, and there's a good chance most of their friends are married, too.

In general, you should not look to any friends to help you find a date, though, because your friends don't necessarily know what kind of person you're looking for. The best advice is to take control and find a date yourself.

This is why you need some single friends.

Join a Club

Activities really do bring people together and help you make new friends. If you're involved in something like a craft, hobby or sport, then you've already taken the first step toward hanging out with (and possibly dating) like-minded individuals. You have something in common, and it's a great icebreaker.

Internet Dating Sites

The is the professional Internet dating and friendship sites accessible from your home computer. Most often, they are free to sign up for, so you can set up a profile and see who's in their database to find out if you're interested in that kind of people.

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Dating Advice for Men

• Respect your woman. Respect is essential, Do not make comments that outrage her modesty and be a decent company, so that she looks forward to see you on more dates.

A little bit of politeness never killed anyone! Women love a bit of good manners every now and then. Do don't forget to open the restaurant door when she enters and pull the chair for her like a real gentleman. Just don't overdo it; she might think you are a wimp.

·         Experience: If it is just your first date with the girl, don't expect too much on your first date. Enjoy the experience and try to make it so enjoyable that your girl looks forward to fix some more dates with you

• Compliment your woman as soon as you see her. Just make sure your comment sounds genuine and heart-felt. Women have the ability to see through fake compliments, but they will appreciate anything that comes straight from the heart.

·         Impression : Take a beautiful bouquet of flowers for her. On Valentine’s Day, giving roses makes more sense. You can choose the color of rose according to your comfort level with the girl. It creates a good impression as no women on earth will mind roses on a date. This will also convey to her that she is special for you and that your intentions are serious.

• Avoid asking too personal questions like about her ex, or anything potentially embarrassing. Don't be too inquisitive about her personal life. Allow her to speak for herself and listen carefully when she does!

Do not point out flaws, unless you want to make her sulk throughout the date. You obviously don’t mind some of her flaws, since she is so special for you.

·         enthusiasm: Be well-groomed. Looks do matter and go a long way in establish lasting impressions about you. Make sure you are dressed nicely and smell good. Take care that you don’t bathe in deodorant as she might just faint!

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Dating Tips For Girls

• Real: be real, Do not try to be someone you are not. You might have always fancied that high school cheerleader, but it wouldn't work if you try to be her on your date. Your man doesn't want to see some cheerleader. He wants to see and know you and not some wannabe you are trying to come across as.

Emotional:

• Try to be friends with your man. Nothing will work better than being friend with your man and it will also make him feel more comfortable with you. It will allow him to open up to you and he will love you even more for that.
• A little flirting goes a long way to make your man feel in the thick of things. It shows that you have a broad mind, exciting, fun-loving and take humor in your stride. Just make sure you don't over do it, as it may send wrong signals.

• All said and done, remember to give the relation enough time to grow and prosper. Don't jump to conclusions about your man just after the first date, as they take longer than women to bare their heart out. So, just relax and enjoy the time you spend with him. Gradually, you will get to see his kind and affectionate side.
• Talk about his interests and try to be an intelligent conversationalist. You certainly don’t want to bore him to death. He will appreciate that you want to know about what interests him and this will make your company exciting for him.
• Work towards building trust, if you have already had many dates with him in the past. Every meeting should facilitate some progress in your relationship and make full use of the beautiful opportunity that Valentine’s Day is presenting you with.
• Make an effort to look good. Men love it when their women dress up for the occasion. Who doesn’t appreciate the company of a good-looking woman? It will also make sure his eyes don't pry after other women!

                       

When I was a kid, most of the advice that my dad gave me was crap. But there's one thing that he said that was pure genius... he said, if you're ever with a girl that's too good for you, marry her.

So in the end we meet someone. We like the look of them and they like the look of us, we laugh and chat together, we build an emotional link through conversation and knowledge and we are attracted to each other on multiple levels.

We find we have a shared experience through our backgrounds and we share similar outlook on life and oh yes, we live in the same neighborhood.

Match made in heaven?

possibly yes, probably no

Love is not just about matching; it is about instant chemistry, something enigmatic and mysterious, not quantifiable.

For all the right reasons we can fall in love in an instant with the wrong people and then again, we can simply not find it within us to love someone who appears so right.

And for that, I have no answer.

yo Toastmasters i am singing song

Best song

Hit song

rhythm correct

supermaama ready

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                         Kabhi Kabhi mere dil mein khayaal aata hai
                         Ki jaise tujhko banaya gaya hai mere liye
                         Ki jaise tujhko banaya gaya hai mere liye
                         Tu abse pehle sitaaron mein bas rahi thi kahin
                         Tujhe zameen pe bulaya gaya hai mere liye

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